STOP!!!
A lot of people think some of these about relationships:
1.) It will make me more popular everyone is doing it!
2.) I NEED someone who can know and understand and love me!
3.) I will never have to feel alone again if I am dating!
4.) Dating provides a way to have physical enjoyment!
5.) Once I find the right guy, we will be the cutest most awesome couple ever!
6.) Everything will be perfect if I am in a relationship!
NO!!!!!!! NO!!!!! NO!!!!! NO!!!!
Dating does not make you more popular, yes it gives you another friend and probably a few more mutual friends. However if you want to be more popular start with listening to other people, putting others first, making an effort to hang out with people. You take the initiative in your friendships.
I NEED someone to want, understand and love me! Guess what you have someone! Someone who loves you more than anything else in the world! Someone who DIED for you! And yet you ask for more love!!!! Nobody will ever understand you as well as Christ, nobody will ever be able to read your mind and meet every expectation and need and desire better than God who btw CREATED you!! Yet we (myself included) dream for a perfect relationship from someone who is only human and wont be able to fulfill every single one of your needs.
I won't be alone if I am dating. Dating does NOT make life perfect. It may actually may make life more complicated, in good and bad ways. But you do need some alone time to collect your thoughts, to prioritize your emotions and the direction your headed in your relationship.
Dating and physical enjoyment..... hhmmm that really strikes a nerve. Too often people date to want to feel appreciated to get attention to their bodies. But in reality they are spoiling the good stuff! Once your married wouldn't it be so much more awesome if that was the first time both parties enjoyed one another. It keeps a pure relationship outside of marriage, and a more rewarding experience as a married couple. Enough on that subject!
Again dating doesn't make life perfect. That is a very high expectation to have when it comes to relationships if you think that your partner in the relationship will be everything you need, and love you more than anything your holding a much too high expectation. And when expectations aren't met there is a lot of disappointment. It can go the opposite way too, if you hold too low of standards you give yourself away too easily. Or if you have bad expectations its hard to give something that can turn out to be a good or even great thing a chance. You feel like you can't give a real chance, you can't trust, or get your heart out in the open and then you miss out the chance for something wonderful!
Don't get me wrong dating can be great! It can be enjoyable and exciting, it can lead to engagement and maybe marriage and maybe even a big happy family! But going into a relationship expecting and wanting a whole lot more or a whole lot less than what your really going to get, is a mistake. Dating has taken on a whole new persona in the last few generations.
There are appropriate times to date. Dating can be a very profitable and a wonderful thing if done correctly. Keep in mind though the key to any good relationship is by putting God first! Once dating do not neglect your friends and family and most certainly not your walk with Christ! He needs to remain first even once your married, and if both of you remain with that attitude the stronger the bond you both have in Christ, naturally the closer you will be.
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